Count Your Angels
Those who have made an encouraging contribution to your life.
We’re all healing from something, maybe several somethings. It’s not a lot of fun, this healing stuff, it makes us remember people who gave us grief.
It’s normal to remember those who fucked us up. They hurt us, but I tell myself that in order to hurt someone, someone has to be hurt first. So I cut them some slack, trying not to let them get away with inflicting pain on me or subverting my life. Translation: I let NO one abuse me.
OK fine & good, but I suggest we do this instead: think back to those who helped you, cared for you so much that when you remember them, it feels good.
Who Are Our Angels?
As far back as you can think, who was it you remember to this day, who was kind and loving to you? I can remember being a toddler in my grandfather’s lap, a 6' 4" strapping Irishman with kind eyes. He’d gather up my two male cousins and me in his lap and tell us stories. He was my first impression of what it’s like to be man.
So go that far back. And then go forward through your life up to the present. Acknowledge these angels, they deserve it, and you deserved them.
I Believe They’re Still Around
Certainly in another life form. I thank them, write poetry about them, recognize what a good person they were to me, and I emulate them.
They still influence us. My angels influenced me, as an young adult, to help at-risk kids as a volunteer, because other human angels had helped me. Pass it on. I emulate my gradfather, an uncle, a Boy Scout leader, a teacher, and my first GF in high school who sketched and painted artwork for my poetry book. Hey, that was a big deal.
Don’t Wait Until You’re “Old”
You are the same person NOW as you’ll be with higher mileage. Do something good, kind and loving in your life simply because it needs to be done and you’re capable of doing it.
The great French philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre said, “If you’re lonely when you’re alone, then you’re in bad company.” Sartre believed you should be responsible on your own, without the help of laws, traditions, religious rules, gender rules or ethnic rules, to do the right thing. If difficulty in a human relationship involves you, then it is up to you to initiate the effort to heal it.
It is never too early, or too late, to become someone’s angel.